Can Guilt be Good? Guilt vs. Shame in Overcoming Porn Addiction
I grew up camping near King’s Canyon just outside of a small mountain town called Camp Nelson. My family has been camping there since my great grandmother was a little girl. The campground is filled...
View ArticleWhat Is a Nice Guy? Nice Guys and Addictions (Part 1 of 2)
I’m writing this in the Seattle-Tacoma airport very early in the morning, preparing to board a plane to return home to the Los Angeles area. This past weekend, I participated in a professional...
View ArticleWhat I Realized about How We Change by Going Rock Climbing
Right around St. Patrick’s Day this year, I was preparing to return to rock climbing, a favorite pastime in college. I dug out my climbing shoes and dusted off my harness. I double-checked my belay...
View ArticleThe Power of Your Breath
Let’s start with a riddle. What is free, has life-sustaining powers, and is happening within your body at this very moment (likely without you even being aware of it)? You guessed it…the breath!...
View ArticleDemystifying the Power of Porn
Have you ever wondered why porn seems so powerful? Has this power left you feeling helpless, lost, and confused? Keep reading to begin demystifying the power of porn. If your answer is yes to one or...
View ArticleWhat is a Nice Guy? Nice Guys and Addictions (Part 2 of 2)
If you didn’t catch my previous post, you might be wondering, “What’s a ‘nice guy’? A “Nice Guy,” according to Dr. Robert Glover as he writes in his book No More Mr. Nice Guy, is a man who seeks the...
View ArticleWhy Do People Cheat? Exploring the Reasons Why Partners Have Affairs
Infidelity has been around since the birth of monogamy. But there’s often great confusion about why people cheat on their partners. Partners I speak with who have cheated, struggling to understand...
View ArticleWhat is Your Reset Button?
What is your reset button? You know – that one thing you can reliably turn to when you’re feeling off, and you know it will give a much needed mental shift or change in perspective? As I was...
View ArticleAll about Porn Addiction Recovery: Highlights from My Most Recent Reddit AMA
I often visit forums on Reddit about recovering from porn addiction. Occasionally, I’ve done AMAs as a porn addiction therapist and answered all kinds of questions about porn addiction recovery. In...
View ArticleSlow and Steady Wins The Race
Stop. Right. There. Bring to mind something that evoked a feeling of gratitude in you today. Was it your breakfast? Your pet? Your partner? Now bring to mind something that struck a painful nerve,...
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